Nikki Cheak (00:00.206)
real energy, real life. This is the podcast for midlife moms who are done pretending they're fine and who are actually really overwhelmed and sick of starting over. So before we get into today's monthly mic drop episode, I wanted to share something with you. I am actually sitting in my closet recording this episode because it's summer and my kids are home. And normally I sit at my desk and I have this great microphone setup and all the things, but
I was so excited to get this episode out there that I was like, okay, I just need to go find a quiet space. So into my closet, I go. So this week is not just some monthly mindset drop. It's actually not going to be about willpower or hype. It's going to be about truth and ownership and calling out the mental patterns that are quietly holding you back, even when you think you're doing everything right. So let's get into today's episode.
I want to tell you about something the other day that happened. I was actually in the car with my oldest son. It was just the two of us. We were talking and you know, we were, I was asking about like what he really wanted to do. said, if you could do anything right now, what would it be? And he said, play D1 football. And then he went super quiet, that kind of quiet when maybe he already decided that it wasn't going to be possible. So I asked him, all right.
Well, what's stopping you? And he looked at me and said, I don't think I can. And honestly, I just sat there because it hits, right? It hits hard because how many of us do the exact same thing, right? We say what we want. We want to lose the weight. We want to feel confident in our clothes. We want to stop feeling exhausted and puffy and just gross. But then without even realizing it, we cancel it out before we can even begin.
where you start saying things like, I've tried everything already. It's too late for me. I don't have the discipline. This is just what happens when you're after 40. So I asked my son, why do think you can't? And he paused and he said, I think I'm the one holding myself back. And I didn't have to say anything else because he already knew. And honestly, so do we. We blame the food. We blame our schedule.
Nikki Cheak (02:28.204)
We blame our age, but underneath it, we're scared to believe that we could do anything differently. And then we'd actually have to show up for it, right? And so when we believe that we can't do anything differently, we don't show up. So that's what this episode is really going to be about. There's not going to be about willpower, right? I don't love that word. It's not about motivation. It's not even about cutting carbs. And it's actually about what's getting in your way.
and how to start getting out of it. So this is your mindset drop for the month. The thing that most of us don't even realize that we're doing is we wait until we feel ready. And that can go for anything. Ready to find a new job, ready to get on a health journey, ready to, I don't know, start a new hobby. And we wait until we feel ready, until it feels easier, until it's less chaotic, like
suddenly one day we're going to wake up and we're going to want to work, you know, work out or we're going to want to prep lunch or, you know, say no to the third class of wine, right? But honestly, if you're in the middle of raising kids and juggling a million things and you're barely getting five minutes alone, like me recording this podcast episode in my closet, then when exactly is that magical moment just supposed to show up? Because it doesn't.
That's the trap. And that second layer to it, you tell yourself, I've tried this before, it didn't work. So why would this be any different? And then you end up in no man's land, right? Not fully in and not fully out, right? You dabble, right? You scroll. You're, going to save ideas for later. I don't know how many ideas I've saved for later in my Pinterest boards, right? And that's the, the truth here is that
You're not stuck because you don't know what to do. You're stuck because you don't believe it's going to work for you. So you don't go all in. And when you don't go all in, you don't get the results, which then just proves your point that it didn't work, right? But honestly, it's not that it didn't work. It's just that you never gave it a real shot. So that's what's holding your back. Not your schedule, not your kids, not that magical word willpower. It's just that one belief.
Nikki Cheak (04:55.858)
And the moment you start questioning that, everything else starts to move. So if you're sitting here thinking, okay, well, I want to feel better. I want to be more consistent, but every time I try something just gets in the way. Let's just call it for what it is, right? That's not a you problem. It's not a try harder problem. You've just been like following all these plans and saving all these ideas.
and doing all of these things that work for other people, but they're not working for you with your life. And look, I mean real life. Like we had a tournament this weekend and dinner was not put together, right? Dinner was at eight because the tournament was late. look, sometimes you're shoving laundry aside so you can sit down on the couch for five minutes without somebody needing something. You're trying to make good choices.
but your energy is shot before you even open the fridge. So of course it's gonna feel easier to say, whatever, you know what, I'm just gonna try again next week. Because you've been told that this consistency that you need is about that willpower that's not really a thing. But honestly, if that were true, you'd be winning a million awards by now because you have the willpower to do so many things, right? You keep everything together. You're already holding it all together on sheer will alone.
We as moms are the glue that keeps everything together. So the issue isn't effort, right? It's honestly just that there's never been space for you and that plan. There's tons of rules out there and there's shame and there's pressure to get it right all the time. But here's what I want you to try instead. I don't want you to have to have a whole plan, not even a mural overhaul this week. I just want you to take a walk. Look, I'm serious. Okay.
a walk, one walk. You're put your shoes on. Maybe you're gonna have your headphones in, maybe not. And you're gonna push 10 minutes, a 10 minute walk. Not doing laundry, not while pushing a stroller, just you by yourself, moving on purpose. Because you're gonna remind your body that we're not gonna do things the old way anymore. This walk, it's not about, I'm gonna go and need to burn a cup.
Nikki Cheak (07:16.672)
you know, a couple hundred calories or I need to get this many steps, but it's about breaking the cycle because right now you're in this cycle of I'm going to try really hard and then you fall off and then you beat yourself up and then you're going to start over and you're going to wait for the next time that you feel ready. And that one walk that you're going to take, it's the break that you need. It's the shift that you need. And it's the proof that you can do something for yourself.
even when everything else is chaos. There are so many times in my days where I technically don't have time to take a walk. But if I were to think about the 10 minutes that I just spent scrolling, I'm like, well, I could have taken a 10 minute walk instead. And that's what I want you to think about. Okay? Because how many of us get into this habit of saying, I don't have the time and I don't have, you know, I'm,
afraid if I try and start, I'm just going to fall off again. And so if you still are thinking like, yeah, I'm going to fall off again. You're not crazy for thinking that because it's happened before and it might happen again because life will throw us curveballs. Okay. And that's negotiable, especially when you have kids, right? Things change every day. Your schedule changes and summer like camps and drop-offs. Come on. Like, you know, we're all over the place.
But here's what changes everything. This time, you're going to have something that you can come back to. Not a plan that's going to vanish when you miss a day. And it's going to give you that reset that you need. And that six week reset that I coach moms through, it's built for this. It's built for real life. It is built for imperfect days. And honestly, it's built for moms like me and you.
who have so much on their plates and even more on their minds. I could go into a whole thing about, you know, when I go to sleep, how many things I've got on my mind and my husband goes to sleep, right? Like how many of us feel that? And this is what the six week resets bill for. So yeah, this week, today, just go take the walk. Let that be your line in the sand today. And if you're done with this whole, I'm gonna just start over thing when I'm ready.
Nikki Cheak (09:38.168)
and you actually want to feel different this summer. So by the time school starts, you're not scrambling to fix everything. You've already established your routine. You're starting to feel so good in your clothes. And look, you're not trying to be perfect. You're just staying steady and keeping up with it. Like you feel so good that I'm here for it, but you don't have to figure it all out today. And if you're ready to do things differently, I'm here to help when you're ready to get there, whatever that looks like for you.
And if you're thinking to yourself, okay, I know I need this, but I don't even know where to start. Go check out the six week reset. It's not all or nothing. Okay. It's the exact plan I use. And I coach women through when life is chaotic, your hormones are crazy and the energy is just off, right? This is not some program that only works when life is perfect because honestly, I wouldn't, I wouldn't be doing it if it were. It's built for the cast, the late dinners, the teen drama that we all go through. And I feel like.
will be a never ending revolving door for me over the next several years, right? So if you've got any tips for that, let me know. But you're gonna get these strategic workouts that don't take forever. So that's gonna keep you full and coaching that's gonna meet you where you are, because I get it. And I am and have been where you are. That place of fear that you're like, I just don't know if I can do this. That's where I'm gonna help meet you. And then we're gonna move you forward.
And if you want to feel like yourself again, by the time school starts with more energy and close the fit and confidence, not just from a good hair day, let this be your starting point. The link is in your show notes or shoot me a message on Instagram at Nikki cheek wellness. If you want to talk through it, I will, I will tell you honestly, if it's a good fit for you with where you're at or not. And in next week's episode.
be ready because this is going to be for the mom who's ever stood in the pantry at 9 p.m. thinking, why do I keep doing this? And it's not because you don't care. It's because you're flat out exhausted and your body is begging for relief. And it's not some self sabotage. It's your hormones that are trying to protect you. So we're going to break down the real reasons you're reaching for the crackers and skipping the workouts and how to actually feel better without shaming yourself into change. Trust me, this one's going to hit home and I'll see you there.
